Kids/Parenting

My all-time favourite book on parenting has to still be Shepherding A Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp. This book changed my perspective, gave me hope that although I was brought up differently to what I probably should have been. I could do it differently through Christ who strengthens me, for my children.

Perfectionism is not in the bible

Even if I thought other people were brought up perfectly, they probably also should read the book, set a side some of the “I was raised that way and survived or came out close to perfect” emotional thought processing and come down to earth; where none of our opinions matter but our favourite Uncle Angus’s saying applies – “The bible says it, I believe it and that settles it” is all encompassing for every part and season of our lives.

A truly grounding book that realigns our understanding of how to look at life and our children. Very helpful and practical regarding discipline and behaviour as well.

You can buy the book through my affiliate link, if you still like my thinking after what you just read. I have decided I’m  not going to apologise for the candid nature of my thoughts. You are welcome to not read my blog, sorry to loose you and love to hear your constructive thoughts even if they are criticisms. I do truly believe perfectionism is not in the bible. I am not condoning tardiness or laziness but I am acutely aware that many people, like myself, come from a background where what is normal to perfectionists is not to us. I, for one, would love to achieve a beautiful, organised, successful home, but have no idea where or how to start.

One of the reasons for my blog is to hopefully get helpful input from the people around me, who do life so almost perfectly they look like saints to me and I must look awful to them. You may make your suggestions available here.

What’s In a day?

You start with a plan,

maybe not perfect, but hey, it’s a plan. It’s somewhere to start and gives you a direction in which you are heading. But does the perfect day actually exist?

The last 2 days have been so off the charts that I thought how could I actually think I can plan what’s in a day? I start out with a perfect picture of how I’m going to drop off the kids, never works out that way only very few days I don’t loose my cool somehow. I told my daughter at least 3 times today to bring or pack or don’t forget the hockey bag… get to school unpack bags.. not there, no hockey bag. Need I say more? I said well short of carrying it out for you, there’s not much more that I can do to help you. Needless to say, there was some conflict talk from my daughter’s side.

I felt really awful because today, as well as that, today was the second of our coldest days we’ve had so far this year. In having to get out the house and drive to school and my daughter, who never moans, is always happy and content and just a pleasure to be with and around as a person any time of the day and night, she, starts to moan and complain and doesn’t find a way to console herself while I’m trying to drive and put up with the everyday chatterbox my boy is, the early morning traffic and we are late for school because of the cold everyone was slow and tired and late to wake up. I became irritated and impatient with my daughter because nothing was consoling her, she kept saying almost crying, she’s cold and I’m more interested in getting them to school on time.

Sad to say, only when it was too late and they were already at school, I stopped to think. When I really got to thinking, I realised how wrong I was. Here’s a little lady who never moans or complains who is always content and easy to please and she’s having a bad day. Instead of getting behind her and lovingly encouraging her I became frustrated and impatient. You know, we don’t know how much time we have with our little angels, let’s worry less about time and what we will look like in front of others and more about the importance of our relationships with our closest and dearest.

I think this afternoon when I see her my conversation will be something along these lines.  My little daughter, I was wrong and I’m sorry for my impatience. Please forgive me for the hurt that I could have caused you and that I could have given you encouragement when all I did was be impatient. I love you more than words can say! Does the perfect day actually exist? It absolutely could if I am more patient, spend more time in submission to the Lord, listening to how Jesus says I should treat and speak to, interact with and love my wonderful family, not the way today worked out.

Please pray for me that I will live this way daily.

Does the perfect day actually exist?

In my opinion, part and parcel of the perfect day is allowing space for our loved ones to be themselves and assist and comfort them when necessary, allowing them to be human beings with needs and requirements of their own. The perfect day is one that turns out with relationships and hearts intact over and above being on time and looking good.

Hello world!

Walking and running in nature is one of my favourite downtimes.

I was blessed this morning by a friend who offered me to walk in their estate and shower at their place. Wow, what a spectacular place to be in. I was not aware that there was a game reserve in the estate and was so pleasantly surprised when I saw this friendly deer there to meet me.

I decided this is one of my favourite places to be, I will do something I’ve never done before. I took a selfie… yes I have taken them with my hubby or kids but we have to have a very good reason or we don’t just get snapping. But here it is. I decided to post it here. Why? I realised when I looked at the picture that I look very scared, anxious and not relaxed. I was so alarmed as I thought I was relaxing and having a great time in the outdoors.

I asked the Lord to show me what was really bothering me and He showed me that all the tension and social anxiety my kids are having is affecting me. I was then free to pray about these and felt very relieved to be able to and grateful the Lord showed me what was bothering me.

A song I’ve been enjoying that really brings me into the presence of God is a special one by Michael W. Smith – Surrounded.